**Author Peek** Interview with Melissa McClone

**AUTHOR PEEK** Interview with



Before we get started talking about your writing, tell us a little about yourself, where you’re from, what you do for a living (if you’re not a full-time writer) what hobbies you have, etc. Whatever you’d like to share to introduce yourself.

Hi! It’s so good to be back on your blog, Karen. About me? Let’s see…I live in the Pacific Northwest. Yes, it’s raining right now! I’m a writer and mom of many two-legged and four legged kiddos. I foster senior cats for a no-kill animal shelter and spend a lot of my time driving kids to various practices and places. My kids say I’m a crazy cat lady and a swim mom. I wouldn’t disagree with them! I enjoy reading, love Star Wars, and am trying to get back in shape so I can keep up with the family this summer.

1. What appeals to you about the genre that you write?

I love happy endings. It doesn’t matter if Im reading a book, writing one or watching a movie, the payoff for me is that happy ending! With Picture Perfect Love, I’m entering a new-to-me romance genre—Christian romance. There’s still a happy journey, and the story is similar to the sweet romances I’ve written before, but with the addition of a faith journey.

2. Are you a plotter or a pantser (one who writes “by the seat of your pants”)?

Plotter, no question about it. I have various forms/charts I’ve found and created over the years to keep me on track. I also write the last chapter after I write the first three. I must know where the story is going or I flounder.

3. What is your favorite part of writing?

Rewriting! Staring at a blank page can be intimidating. My first drafts are really bad, but I can get the story down and figure out the characters. The good stuff happens when I’m rewriting and doing revisions!

4. If you had to give up writing and do something else, what would you do instead?

It would have to be something creative. I love crafting, but not sure I could make any money at that. I do love making prize packages to give away on my Facebook page and more than one reader has told me I could make a living doing it so maybe I’d try that!

5. What’s your favorite meal of the day?

I’d say breakfast, and I’ll add that it’s my favorite meal to eat out!

6. Which are your favorite characters to write, the female characters or the male characters? Why?

I love writing male characters. Men are fascinating and writing one is a way to get into their heads. Plus I enjoy researching my guy characters. I’ve interviewed mountain climbers and rescuers, an internet dating site founder, police officers, firemen, farmers, hi-tech executives, venture capitalists, and many others. So much fun and educational!

7. If you had a superpower, what would it be, and how would you use it?

I’d want to be invisible so I could do in-depth research (and eavesdropping on conversations) for my stories.

8. Many writers dream of having the ideal location to write. If you could live anywhere in the world or live a particular lifestyle, where would you be answering these questions right now?

I’d be living in a log cabin near Bend, Oregon with a view of Ponderosa pines and snow-capped peaks out my window.

9. Do you have any rejection stories to share? Reviews that meant something special to you?

I’ve been very fortunate when it comes to rejections since I sold my first manuscript back in 1997. The books rejected before that point weren’t ready for publication and deserved to be rejected, but with each rejection letter, I learned something that helped make me a better writer.

10. Tell us about your next book & when is it being published?

Well, Picture Perfect Love goes on sale tomorrow, and I have a Harlequin Special Edition titled His Proposal, Their Forever that comes out on July 1st.


Links to Melissa’s website, blog, books, etc.

Website: http://www.melissamcclone.com

Facebook page:

Twitter: @melissamcclone

Amazon Kindle:



BE SURE TO COME BACK to read more about Melissa, her release, and an excerpt from PICTURE PERFECT LOVE on Wednesday’s Karen’s Killer Book Bench. Happy Reading!



Burst_08**SPECIAL GIVEAWAY**:  Melissa is giving away a prize pack that contains a $10 Amazon gift card, a Picture Perfect Love magnet, Ghirardelli chocolate bar and bookmarks to one lucky reader who answers the following question on her *Author Peek* Interview or Karen’s Killer Book Bench blogs. QUESTION: HAVE YOU EVER FOUND IT DIFFICULT TO FORGIVE SOMEONE WHO WRONGED YOU IN THE PAST? Don’t miss the chance to read this book! Thanks, Melissa, for sharing your story with us!

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130 Responses to **Author Peek** Interview with Melissa McClone

  1. Karen Docter says:

    Hi, Melissa, and welcome back to Karen’s Killer Book Bench with your new book! Like you, I’m a breakfast person for going out. Dinner’s always fun, but there’s something about breakfast. 🙂 I’m also right there with mountains outside my window, which is why I love my Colorado Rockies so much. 🙂 🙂

  2. Invisibility! 🙂 I like writing male characters, too. No explaining it.

    • Hi Mariana! Wouldn’t it be fun to go anywhere and never be seen? Oh the research possibilities 😉 Trying to explain the writing male characters better was hard. I had to think on that one a bit!

  3. Sarita says:

    Excellent interview, and I’m right there with you on breakfast. Congrats on the upcoming release. I can’t wait to read this!

  4. Thanks so much for having me on the blog! Loved the questions 🙂

  5. Danielle says:

    yes the kids who bullied my in High School. But now as an adult it does still affect me what I went through. But I can say today that I forgive them.

  6. Susan says:

    yes. Sometimes, it is hard to forgive.

    I love happy endings!

  7. Kathy P says:

    I may forgive but I never forget!

  8. vickie Couturier says:

    what a good interview and really interesting questions,,thanks for sharing with us

  9. Danielle D says:

    Sometimes as its always hard to forgive and forget.

  10. Robyn K says:

    I forgive people but I never forget. Thank you for this giveaway. happy Memorial Day!

  11. Helen Stockwell says:

    I have found it difficult. I held a grudge against someone for years until it got to the point where it was eating me up inside and affecting my life. Why do that to myself. So I forgave them but I do not forget it. It taught me to be careful and make better decisions that are best for me and not someone else.

  12. Charish otte says:

    Yes I forgave someone for betraying me that about killed me!! It took me 2years but I did it! I’m glad I did because she had cancer last year and now has fully recovered from it!! But I would have missed out on that if I hadn’t forgave her. Always forgave you never know when their time will be up in this world:)

  13. Sabrina P says:

    Some things are unforgivable which means you don’t get the chance to do it again.

  14. Lisa Friend says:

    Much easier to forgive than forget for me.

  15. Sometimes it is hard to forgive people when they do or say things to me that are hurtful. I would like to win this prize. Thank you for the chance.

  16. Kendra Huffman says:

    Thank you for sharing. I love you books I so easy to forget and forgive that sometimes it hurts but later I fell better about my choice.

  17. Pam Lowery says:

    Melissa, loved the answer to these questions. Invisibility! yes that would be fun. And I too, live your prize packages, you can tell you put a lot into them, they are amazing. I used to work in a Christian bookstore and loved reading the Christian love stories we carried, now that was over 30 years ago and they have come a long way, but there is just something about a sweet romance. About forgiveness, yes I have had some problems with that, but my Bible says we are to forgive and forget, because that’s what I want God to do for me, I have to also do that even though sometimes it’s hard.

    • Neat about working in a Christian Bookstore, Pam! I used to subscribe to Heartsong a long, long time ago, so this has been an interest even before I sold that first book to Silhouette! And having some problems with forgiveness is something I can relate to, but as you said it’s what we’re supposed to do. I always tell myself that He never said it would be easy 😉

  18. Sharame Vodraska says:

    There have been just a few people that I have not been able to truly and long lastingly forgive. Sometimes my mind will keep revisiting the incidents of hurt and undo what work I had done to feel at peace. To undo my sense of having forgiven.

  19. Sometimes it’s easy to forgive. There have been times in my life that I’ve found it extremely hard to forgive. In my mind I think I’ve forgiven, but something brings that memory back and my heart lets me know that maybe I need more time.

  20. Jennifer Long says:

    I try to forgive but im not very good at it LOL

  21. Kels Pb says:

    No, I forgive. Just learn to forgive and forget its the only healthy thing to do.Nobody is perfect and some of us make more mistakes than others, it doesnt mean we are bad people, it just means some people naturally always make wrong actions.

  22. Brittany A says:

    It depends on what they did and who did it. There are just some things I cant forgive “you” for or be ok with anymore. My dad used to tell me one thing about trust and respect. “They are two way streets, they can not be demanded only earned.”

    Happy memorial day ^_^

  23. Alisia says:

    Great interview!! Love happy endings as well.
    It depends on how bad they wronged me and how close we were before; I may forgive when I have had time to think about it and get over it or it might take years when I feel it wasn’t that important anymore.
    Thanks for the giveaway and chance to win!

    • Glad you liked it, Alisia! I agree it may take time and I know in at least one case, I realized how I saw the friendship wasn’t the same as the other person that gave me a much needed perspective. Good luck!

  24. Laura Marsh says:

    There was a girl who was nasty to me in Jr. High I hope that she got payback in some way.

  25. Shanon Dowling says:

    Since I have 2 special needs children, I would like immortality, which may not be a traditional super power but if I was immortal I would never have to worry who will take care of them after I’m gone 😉

  26. Debbie T. says:

    I love to read Melissa’s books. Very happy you are sharing the interview with us.

  27. Kathy LaMaster says:

    Yes, I have found it difficult to forgive, but it’s gotten easier as I have gotten older and matured. It’s not that it’s so hard to forgive as it is to UNDERSTAND when someone has hurt you.

    • Yep, me too. Totally sucker for an HEA, Kathy! Very true about forgiving to get on with life. It’s a lesson we all need to learn, but some figure it out sooner than others!

      • Kathy,

        Someone else’s post showed up and I replied to that, not yours. Sorry! I never thought about the understanding part, but I realize now that’s so true. Thanks for mentioning that!

  28. Melinda Garza says:

    Yes someone stole from my parents and it was very hard to forgive them but after much prayer I decided it was better to forgive them than to hold onto that grudge. I didn’t forget though.

  29. zahra p says:

    Yes, I did eventually forgive, but it took many years and I definitely would not forget.

  30. Linda Stults says:

    It takes a long while for me to forgive, but I don’t forget.

  31. Sydnee Walsh says:

    I can forgive if they need to be forgiven. I don’t always forget so it makes it harder to keep them as a friend.

  32. Robyn L says:

    I love happy endings also/am a sucker for them.

    I forgive but find it hard to forget but try not to dwell on the incident. I believe you must forgive in order to get on with life.

  33. Jonella Moore says:

    normally, I would say that I easily forgive and forget. There has been only one person who I haven’t been able to really forgive, and that is my ex-husband. In 2001 I was diagnosed with MS. When my husband was told about the diagnosis, he told me he couldn’t deal with “watching me go downhill and die” and he left me and divorced me when I’m needed him most. We had been married for 24 years at that time. I was very sick and emotionally destroyed by his actions. I have had to struggle through this disease on my own, when I should have had his support. I realize now, through lots of counseling, that this was a weakness of his character. But it still hurts 14 years later. The only connection we still have is through our children.

  34. Misty Farris says:

    I loved reading the interview! I used to struggle with forgiveness. When someone would wrong me in some way, I would hold onto it. I am learning to be more forgiving, and that by not forgiving, it only does me more harm.

  35. Kimberly Boyd says:

    Hi Melissa

    Yes I forgave my now ex for cheating on me. Hope u have a great day.

  36. Glenda says:

    There have been a couple times. It is much easier to forgive than forget though.

  37. Donna Quarles says:

    There are some things that are unforgivable. My ex husband & my oldest brother have done unforgivable things to me. But I also believe that karma will pay them back & it has.

  38. Anna Hartt says:

    I used to have a very hard time forgiving. Without forgiving, I was stuck in the past and had substance abuse issues. Once I learned how to forgive, myself and others, my life changed in leaps and bounds.
    I would love to be invisible, but not sure that would be the right super power for me. I am thinking more on the lines of moving things like logs and such (cutting down a tree) with the wave of my hand.
    I enjoy your books Melissa, and am excited to read this new book! Congratulations!!

  39. Loretta Shumpert says:

    Of course. One comes to mind; I chose to continue working on it, I chose to not let it hang around the rest of my life, and when the worst of the pain was gone, forgiveness was easier. I chose forgiveness.

  40. Janice Dean says:

    I do forgive but no, I don’t forget either. Happy Memorial Day!

  41. Bonnie Gonzales says:

    I’m the worst about forgiving, and I forget so much stuff even why I walked into a room, why can’t I forget the wrongs done me?

  42. Trudy says:

    my father was diagnosed with terminal cancer when I was 18. We never really got along & we didn’t have a good relationship at all because he had been an abusive alcoholic (he was clean & sober for several years when he was diagnosed). When he was diagnosed I realized that I didn’t want him to die with the bad energy still lingering between us so we spent as much time as possible building our relationship back. The night before he died we talked about everything and I forgave him. It taught me that life is just too short to hold grudges and forgiveness helps you heal. If we hadn’t have had that forgiveness & closure then I would always have an emptiness in my heart instead I have all the great memories we created.

  43. Kathy Gleich says:

    I am still working on forgiveness for someone who betrayed a family member. It would be easier if it was done to me, but I can’t get past the anger I feel because of the pain our loved one felt at a difficult time in her life. Maybe being Irish doesn’t help, either, but sometimes isn’t it better just to stay away from evil people and not give them the power to cause pain or the satisfaction of forgiveness?

    • Someone posted something on my Facebook page today that I think fits here, Kathy. I’m going to paste a quote that someone said is her motto: FORGIVNESS is not something we do for other people.
      We do it for OURSELVES-to GET WELL and MOVE ON

      I love this quote! I think the words are true because some people might not ever want our forgiveness. But holding onto to anger or a grudge can lead to bitterness and that only affects you not the person who did the hurting.

  44. Amy says:

    Great answers! I would like to have invisiblity and teleportation. You definitely make amazing prize packs! As for the answer to your question…I have a hard time holding a grudges. The longest I think was a year. I forgive but I definitely do not forget.

  45. steven epstein says:

    I will never forgive or forget what my ex wife did to me. to long a story to start.

  46. Crystal Young says:

    Yes, but It happened recently and maybe over time I will.

  47. joanna reed says:

    Yes, but in all honesty maturity and time has helped me to see that it is wise and best for all to forgive and to move forward..I have found it very helpful to move past all wrong doings.

  48. Gina H. says:

    Yes sometimes it’s hard to forgive. And I’ve found I can forgive but still choose not to have someone in my life.

  49. Dawn says:

    Hey, yes but need to forgive to get on with your life

  50. KathleenO says:

    I try to forgive and forget, but sometimes it is very hard to do both.

  51. Denise Keef says:

    This was a wonderful interview and yes Melissa, you could make a living making up prize packages. You put so much thought and caring into yours it is unbelievable. I have a very hard time forgiving people who have hurt me. I know in order to heal one should do it but sometimes the pain is so deep it is really…really hard. I think that is why I love HEAs in books because sometimes we haven’t found our own yet <3

  52. Dana Matthews says:

    Yes ma’am….and as a rule I am a forgiving person but I have had something to happen that I considered at the time unforgivable. Time heals…some things.

  53. Meghan Finley says:

    I find it incredible difficult to forgive. It’s something I work on daily. My nature is not one that normally switches to forgiveness. I think my default setting is vengeance in most situations where I am wronged.

  54. rosie D says:

    I believe in Karma, I am a kind positive person. I have come across some very unhappy bitter people who seem to derive pleasure from upsetting others. I try to give them a wide berth, I would never forgive and I would never want to be in the same room as them again. life is too short…

  55. Johanna Owen says:

    If I had a super power I would like to become invisible or able to fly

  56. Alayne Langford says:

    Hi Melissa and Karen! Such a pleasure to read this blog post!

    As I have become older and a little wiser, some of the issues that have been difficult for me to forgive in the past have become somewhat trivial when I look at the big picture! Acceptance and to “agree to disagree” are some of my ways of dealing with family disagreements. To forgive takes an awful lot of courage and strength and also helps me to move on, but yes like others, I never forget 🙂

  57. Thank you for this giveaway!

  58. Candace Galan-Calderon says:

    Yes, I have, especially when that person has wronged me more than once.

  59. Victoria Stolte says:

    I believe everyone deserves a second chance but it would probably take a while to find that comfortable medium

  60. Janel says:

    Usually forgive but I still hold a grudge against a certain ex.

  61. Jo Anne V says:

    I forgive but I do it more for me so I won’t become a bitter person but I do stay wary and will not be twice burned.

  62. rose says:

    Hmmm I think it’s hard to get rid of the memories sometimes, even if you feel like you forgave.

  63. Connie Fischer says:

    Hi, Melissa!

    I don’t know if the word “forgive” is what I would use but I have learned to let go of the anger and hurt and forget about it. Life’s too short to dwell on past wrongs. If that’s forgiving, then good.

    I enjoyed an ARC of “Picture Perfect Love” and will share my review soon.


  64. Erin Will says:

    I am a very forgiving person. I will usually forgive and move forward not holding a grudge…life is short. If someone continues to do me wrong I just move on, try and focus on something else. Thank you so much for this amazing giveaway!!! I enjoyed reading all your answers!

  65. Jessica Whitehouse says:

    I have had a couple of people who really hurt me. I never really forgave them. It’s hard to forgive someone who isn’t sorry for their actions.

    It really hurt for a while, but eventually, I just grew apart from those people and distanced myself from them. After all, I didn’t need the pain they caused, and I missed them even less once they were gone.

  66. Pilar M Seacord says:

    Yes. It was a guy I liked an awful lot. He slept with someone I can’t say. He was the one guy. I never would have believed it of. We never got together because of it. Wasn’t meant to be. I’m with the man I was meant to be with!

  67. flchen1 says:

    I don’t think forgiveness is ever easy, even with Christ’s example before us. But it is always helpful to be reminded that hanging onto the anger and bitterness turns the pain inward and intensifies it, while letting it go can often be the start of our own healing.

    Thanks for the post, Melissa!

  68. Judy Thomas says:

    If it’s something small I have no problem forgiving someone but if it’s major it would take me years to forgive them, if ever.

  69. Moran says:

    I have to be honest and say it’s very hard for me to forgive prople who hurt me or wronged me in the past.
    Maybe it’s because I’m not sure of they are truly sorry or maybe some things I just can’t forget.

  70. Quilt Lady says:

    Great interview Melissa! I will usually forgive someone for something they have done to me, but I never forget it. It will always be there and it makes it harder to trust again.

  71. To this day I love that you help out a non-kill shelter and foster cats. I love working at the non-kill shelters here. I am the photographer (Which is my favorite thing to do I love photography!!!!!) as well as I help out with social media and events. It brings a smile to my face. I too love happy endings. I love that you like re-writing. I love looking at the blank paper and seeing possiblities… it is like a new date with destiny each time! That is so awesome that you have intreviewed so many men in careers!!! I am sure you have heard some stories! I love also that you said each time you were rejected it helped you become a better writer I think that is something many need to see that even if someone says no that does not mean it is over it means learn and grow and you will do great things! Congrats on both Picture Perfect Love and The proposal, their forever!!!!!

  72. Kirsten says:

    Yep. Two come to mind. One, the girl who burned up all my things in the parking lot of the place I worked. Two, my abusive ex…who, by the way, will be at my daughter’s bbq today…you put up with things like that for your kids.

  73. Yes, I know we are taught to Forgive and forget but that is so hard. Because I have opened my home to many I have had so many people steal and take advantage of that. One person to all the money, I had. Another came and took items that did not belong to me and another took movies. I know they are materialistic items but it hurts because these were friends…Right? Then you start seeing that is not the case. I have been hurt by guys and by friends and it sucks because if you do not forgive you put up a wall and it makes it harder for you to meet the right people because you will not let them in. I have gone from a open house to a I will meet you somewhere else I do not want you knowing where I live. That is so sad 🙁 I always tell people forgive and forget may not be easy to do. I always tell people start with forgiveness. You do not have to forget as you will remember that for the rest of your life but learn from it, grow and be strong. Because without it we become hateful, mean and bitter where as if we forgive we do not have to be the best friends with that friend that stole or marry the guy that hit you, we do not have to shop at the store that fired you for wrong doing but we do have to be respectful. If you can find it in you to forgive and forget then you can go back to being friends but more aware.. I mean we all make mistakes. We all mess up it is human to error it is if we continue to do those wrong things that I say move on. Do not surround yourself with that drama. But if it was a one time mess up then go ahead. Can you imagine if we did not tolerate it at all, how many of us as kids did something wrong. Our parents, gaurdians, grandparents, even friends and teachers forgave us. We have to grow and learn from that. Even now I am battling. I have forgiven others for stealing and I even forgave a lady that attacked me because she needed someone to go after but I will not let her harm me or bring me down. I will stay the same person, the one that wants others to be happy, the one that enjoys reading and movies, the one that falls in love with characters, the one that loves her friends and family, the one that loves animals and photography and helps those in need. The one that loves the sound of laughter! That will be me.

  74. Rebecca Kramer says:

    Yes, I have found it hard to forgive some one.

  75. Michele Hayes says:

    I’ve never been in this situation but I like to think I could forgive and forget.

  76. Catherine Maguire says:

    I have found it difficult to forgive someone who has wronged me in the past. If I could have a super power it would be the power of shape shifting.

  77. Julie McDonough says:

    Great interview! I have found it difficult at times to forgive, but never impossible. I just become a little wiser from the experience.

  78. Yes, there is someone in my past who has wronged my children, and I find it difficult to forgive that. It’s just better not to be around that person.

  79. Aretha z says:

    Yes found it extremely difficult to forgive them , but now I have learned that all is in the past now !

  80. Shelly W says:

    I find it difficult to forgive someone who has wronged me in the past if they keep doing it. The first time I would forgive them. I would love to have the superpower of flying. That was a hard one to figure out. LOL

  81. Cheryl Hastings says:

    Yes, I have found it difficult. I’m still not sure I have forgiven them.

  82. Jessica Chappell says:

    I have a hard time when someone is intentionally hurting me. I never forget that!

  83. Martha Luketich says:

    I’m excited to learn that you’re writing a Christian romance book and I can’t wait to read it! I’ve recently discovered these books and have liked the ones I’ve read so far. (I love any books about the Amish too.) Guess that’s why I’m not a writer, I can’t write to a outline or chart but just type my thoughts out. Yes, forgiveness is hard — it took me a while to forgive a co-worker who was given the position I thought I was going to get (I had been there longer etc.) and then wanted to change my long-time schedule there. I changed jobs and finally realized that it wasn’t worth or right for me to continue to be upset with her.

  84. Heather Stanley says:

    I try to forgive more for me than the other person 🙂 but there are some things I’ll never be able to forgive

  85. Denise says:

    I learned you forgive to free yourself, forgiveness doesn’t mean one allows the other party to repeat the I injury.

  86. Sue Peace says:

    Hi ladies! Yes, there are times it has been difficult to forgive, but I think as I get older (yikes!) and have more perspective and life experience it is easier to forgive and move on. 🙂 Hope you have a great day!

  87. Stacey A Smith says:

    I have to forgive all the time other wise my family would just fall apart.love the Invisible power idea.

  88. Jane Nelson says:

    Hi Melissa! Great interview! I love that you want to be invisible foe research purposes! That WOULD be interesting! 🙂

  89. Marie says:

    It depends on how bad the hurt was as to whether I will forgive them. I have gotten rid of friendships because of this.

  90. Nicola Mcvea says:

    Hi Melissa, 🙂
    My problem is I’m too forgiving. I forgive people way too easy. A few times I have forgiven and then been walked all over. I just don’t like negive energy or tension so I tend to forgive easily…but I never forget.
    Loved reading your interview, some great questions. Very interesting to find out. Thank you.

  91. Jessica Dehman says:

    Yes it’s extremely hard but I’ve learned to forgive most things, I just never forget.

  92. Amy Medeiros says:

    Lovely interview and yes i have found it hard to forgive and forget, sometimes its hard.

  93. NaDell says:

    Breakfast food is my favorite.
    Forgiveness… sometimes hard, but always done, even though it’s hard.

  94. Marcy Shuler says:

    Hi Melissa.

    My dad was emotionally and physically abusive to my siblings and I, but I was able to put this aside and care for him myself at home before he passed away from cancer. Sadly, it’s not something you can easily forget.

  95. Anne says:

    Forgiving is very difficult and it is hard to forget.

  96. Yaritza says:

    Very difficult to forgive. I don’t forget what people say or do to me that is unacceptable.

  97. Eileen Aberman-Wells says:

    I can forgive but forgetting is harder. It doesn’t help that I have an elephant-like memory. I try not to bring up the unforgotten part and use it later.

    Love your books.

  98. Tammy Ramey says:

    Hi Melissa and Karen,
    Love the cover, it’s beautiful and the book sounds wonderful. i look forward to reading it. 🙂 As for you question: My answer is yes! As an “ASOIACA” i spend most of my life trying and sometimes struggling to living by the motto:”Ephesians 4:32New International Version (NIV)32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”

    The way i have come to understand it is that there can be no forgiveness without love and no love without forgiveness. If you
    love your enemy as if they were yourself and love yourself as if you were your most beloved child. Strive everyday to personify the characteristics of the way God would want you to act toward each other and you will find the peace you deserve.
    Everyday is a new day and forgiveness is for the healing of Your soul not theirs so it is to your benefit to forgive if you can. I know that sometimes you have to do this the same way an alcoholic stop drinking,one day at a time( depending on the grievance)heck sometimes it’s one hour,one minute at a time. :}
    tammy ramey

    P.S. In case anyone was wondering “ASOISACA” stands for “Adult Survivor of Incest,Sexual,and Childhood Abuse”.If you need help with and of this there are people you can talk to. Reach out to your local Mental Health facility for information on groups and counselors. National hotline is: NAASCA.org 323-552-6150
    there is a list of emails and people you can talk to for your different states at the website.

  99. carole fiore says:

    Hi! I had a hard time in forgiving but my grandma mentioned that you become a bitter person and I had a good heart so if God can forgive us so I should beable to-so glad for even though my dad hurt us he’s a good person and now since my mom is gone he’s been in my life even more.

  100. Megan Baxter says:

    Oh yes. I’m really good at holding a grudge.

  101. Ria Alemina says:

    I prefer on writing then crafting. lol =P
    Invisible! Yes, i wish i can have those power too! XD

  102. Callie Cuddy says:

    Depends on who it is. I have forgiven more than I probably should, in others minds. If it wasn’t for God, I’d have a different answer.

  103. Joy I says:

    It depends on what the person does to warrant my forgiveness. However, I do forgive them. And sometimes, that weakens our friendship.

  104. Shannon says:

    I’ve had trouble forgiving people for what they have done but have been able to move on and move past what happened with them

  105. Becky VanGinkel says:

    When I was younger I definitely had a hard time forgiving a few people for some things they had done to me.. but now that I’m in my early 30’s (31 to be exact with 3 children of my own and happily married to the father of my children) I find it easier to forgive and move on.. that doesn’t always mean that I keep that person in my life though!! Sometimes it’s easier to forgive and let them go 😉 lol


    P.S. Breakfast is also my favorite meal, and I love to eat out for breakfast.. it can be such a messy meal to cook and I HATE dishes! lol

  106. Breakfast. Forgive because not doing so causes more damage to your soul and life is meant to be celebrated, not live in the past.

  107. Ellie Wright says:

    I do sometimes have problems with forgiveness. I usually forgive with time, but never forget.

  108. Tarra says:

    Great interview and insight into your writing process, Melissa.

  109. Linda Henderson says:

    It really depends on what the circumstances are. Some things I can forgive better than others.

  110. Amber Sachs says:

    I think it depends on what it was that occurred.
    It’s harder to forgive certain things. It’s even harder to forget.

  111. Michelle Delgado says:

    Hello and good afternoon I just wanted to take a quick minute to say how much I enjoy your books.

  112. Aly P says:

    I usually forgive everything 🙂

    Great interview and happy release day!

  113. Renee Rousseau says:

    I’ve only threatened to spit on one person’s grave in my whole long life and I won’t really do it because she is not worth the effort.
    ps. She doesn’t deserve forgiveness and she has hers coming some day.

  114. Linda Romer says:

    Yes, I would say that I have had trouble forgiving people in the past. But my advice is Don’t carry a grudge for long it’s not worth it to feel angry and mad, just let it go and move on! Thank you

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